10 Surefire Ways To Give Away All Your Power

10. Follow the Status Quo

Life was so much easier when I watched  Football.  For months I would be able to carry conversations, be invited to people’s homes, and have a general sense of camaraderie.  The year that I quit gambling I spent my Sundays at San Onofre beach surfing during the entire football season.  The next year, football had lost its appeal.

I realized how much time I had wasted watching TV Programs just so I could have something to say at gatherings.  I am so out of touch with TV that I just found out what a Snookie was about 7 months ago.

9. Feel Sorry For People or Yourself

Life happens.  Sometimes it’s pretty rough.  To experience the actuality of any of the 6 listed Ghosts of Fear will bring about sorrow.  I’ve watched too many people die.  I’ve seen beautiful people suffer from poverty; a few times I suffered from it myself.

One thing I have learned is that with all suffering comes great revelations.  Instead of feeling sorry for someone you know, please begin to hold the space for their personal growth and recovery.  If that person is you, know that I hold that space now.

8. Have A Prerequisite For Happiness

Think about your “Perfect Day Scenario” for a moment.  Is there something in you that is saying “Oh yeah, I will be able to do this when…..”  or “I will be able to find my soul mate after…..”  Or “I will finally be happy when…..”  I think I may have been doing this a few months ago.

I realized I can be happy NOW!  I may not be next to a great surf break, but every single day is a gift and so much around me can be enjoyed if I learn to get out of my own way.

This prerequisite for happiness has often turned me into a procrastinator, and other times into a grumpy Gus.

7. Always Say Yes

Everyone loves a person who can’t say No!  They will help you move on a hot day, lend you money when you need it and be there to rescue you when you’ve made some horrible mistake.  That may be one of the reasons people learned to always say yes.

They want to be liked.  They want people to appreciate them. They want to feel useful.

I have to take my needs, and sometimes saying yes is the wrong answer.  Saying No to a friend in need may cause a rift, but it most likely is what the friend needs most at this time.  Some decisions need to have consequences in order for lessons to be learned.

Which leads me to….

6. Keep Those Toxic People in Your Life No Matter What

I know it’s difficult sometimes to distance yourself away from Toxic People; especially when they’re family or lifelong friends.  But, it’s something you’re going to have to do.

We all have these neurons in our brains that mirror the people around us.  We actually begin to take on the attitudes of the people in our personal atmosphere.  If you are changing your “vibe” then you won’t be able to do that and Keep all of the people you currently call friends.

When I quit drinking and drugging I felt really lonely.  All of the people with whom I had spent the previous 5 years of my life were hard core drunks or drug addicts.  It’s really no fun to be the sober guy in the crowd.  (NO I didn’t become FUN BOBBY!)

5. Maintain that ALL is Love and Everything is Right in the World

I do believe that Love is at the core of Existence, but I’m not blind to the reality of this world.  We live in a world of control, fear and intimidation.  Power and money is in the hands of few at the cost of many.

I believe that the way out of this is for each of us to connect with our inner source of Love and Power.

That is why I write this Newsletter, on my blog and for every website/publication I can find.  I want to help people realize that we “Must Be The Change” (Gandhi….gotta love him!)

4. You Must Learn to Sacrifice

I hear this one all the time.  I think it’s a bunch of Crap!  I don’t believe that we need to sacrifice anything for anyone; to do so causes a dysfunction in us that is hard to notice and harder to heal.

I learned that I had to become “Selflessly Selfish”.  All of the actions I take must come from a place of Love.  I do what I do because I CAN, not because I’m obligated!

If you have responsibilities in your life then learn to own them.  Stop the Martyrdom TODAY!  Either do it with Love or Don’t DO IT!

3. Make Sure You Keep Dreaming Your Dreams

Keep making those “Someday” statements.  Keep Wishing.  Keep Doing What You’ve Been Doing; Keep Getting What You’ve Been Getting.

I’ve fallen into this one a few times.  I spent days dreaming my dream life while taking very little action that supports it.  I know all that I desire.  I’ve been very clear on that, but I still take actions that are contrary.

I desire a muscular/healthy body with little body fat.  I have for quite some time.  My dietary choices and my activity levels didn’t support my Dream Body until recently.  Apparently it’s going to take some more time to get it there.

Look at your own actions and see if they support your desires or drive you in a different direction.

2. Focus On The Behavior of Other People

It’s so unfair that so many people get to do so many things that aren’t right while you live a “descent” life and have to struggle.  So many people around you are knuckle heads.  Where is Karma when you need her!?

I hear these sentiments often.  Think about how much of your mind’s energy is spent on the actions of other people.  Now ask yourself Why is that important?

If you need to learn something, then learn it and move on.  Find the value of where your attention lies and grow.  Better yet, see if you can go this next week without maintaining your focus on the behavior of other people.
FOCUS ON YOU, YOUR BEHAVIOR, THE ACTIONS YOU TAKE TOWARDS FULFILLMENT OF YOUR DREAMS…..focus on that for this next week.

1. Don’t Bother With Learning to Accept Yourself

Remember kiddos, I’m the “It’s All About ME!” guy.  I’m the guy that thinks you’ll learn the most from taking those qualities you’re pissed off about in other people and discovering where you too are that.

So of course I think the number one way that We give our power away is when we don’t fully accept ourselves.

Look at yourself today and understand that you are just fine the way you are.  You are lovable, worthy, amazing and beautiful.  You don’t need anyone’s approval and you’ll never get it if you don’t first approve of yourself.

This week I implore you to sit still for 30 minutes each day.  I don’t care if you do it with your eyes open or closed, but do it!  Find a quiet spot in nature.  Breathe.  Begin with your attention on the spot between your eyebrows, about an inch above the bridge of your nose.  Sit and breathe.  Contemplate Power, Balance, Harmony, Beauty and Nature.  Be Still.  Be Love.