ARE YOU SURE YOU’RE NOT SHEEPLE?

Studies have shown that in a situation where someone is in need of help, the more people in the vicinity of the person, the less likely anyone is to come to their aid.

Psychologists call it the “Bystander Effect” and suggest that  “A Diffusion of Responsibility” takes place in our brains when in groups. Apparently when we only feel the pressure to “do something about it” when other people are not present.

In a kind of pass the buck scenario, everyone will just stand idle and do nothing.

This also translates into working as a group.

If each individual doesn’t have a defined role in a group where their efforts can be distinguished from the rest, then they will work a far below their potential.

Why is this important?

Well, I’m suggesting that this is one of the biggest reasons we are experiencing the world as we know it.

Apparently, we’re more like sheep than people….

In February 2008, Professor Krause’s research paper Consensus decision making in human crowds was published in Animal Be­haviour Journal. The research showed that humans exhibit animal-like behaviour in certain situations by flocking like sheep and birds and subconsciously following a minority of individuals.

The results show that it takes a minority of just five per cent to influence a crowd’s direction – and that the other 95 per cent follow without realising it. Professor Krause, with PhD student John Dyer, believe the findings could have major implications for directing the flow of large crowds, in particular in disaster scenarios, where verbal communication may be difficult. ……(read the rest where I found it….HERE

 

Add all of these factors up together and it’s easy to explain how we allow these governments and corporations to run rampant with no regard to human life.

It’s also easy to see why JFK’s Speech fell on def ears;

…..And so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you – ask what you can do for your country.

My fellow citizens of the world: ask not what America will do for you, but what together we can do for the freedom of man.

Finally, whether you are citizens of America or citizens of the world, ask of us the same high standards of strength and sacrifice which we ask of you. With a good conscience our only sure reward, with history the final judge of our deeds…..

I look back on the things that arose in 2011; Occupy Movement stands out to me.

I’ve supported the protest, even though I feel that the solutions being offered are no better than what we’re already seeing.

Our system is corrupt.  It will keep moving forward as long as we keep acting like sheep.

 

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YES, I DO LIKE BOOBIES. NO THAT DOESN’T MAKE ME A PIG.

I get the best emails!  Thanks Hector.

Finally someone that makes sense.  This guy…..

 

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We all have hardwired in our brains to scan the world for certain things.  My biology wants to pass on DNA.

Every now and then my eyes drop. I respectfully pull them up as soon as I realize….

It’s a bit embarrassing, but that’s just the way my brain works.

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TAKE YOUR FEAR AND CREATE JOY

Recognize fear in the moment and start rewriting your story right then. Write it down. What are the reasons you have fear around it? You’ll start seeing a pattern or big fat ugly excuses.

Begin the transformation to joy.  Take your fear and create joy.  Joyfear.  Really, like love and hate, it’s a fine line.

Today I woke up.  Sipped my coffee. Checked my messages (Facebook, Gmail, etc.).

A link at the bottom of one of my emails lead me to a website that I’ve never seen Big Island Dog.  <<<That article is the first one I read, and is where the quote from the top of the page originated.

Instantly I felt Gratitude, Love, Joy.

What can I say? I get excited about life.

Jt Clough’s story is pretty awesome; she just uprooted her whole life to live the life of her dreams!

I enjoy reading about other people, and their journey.  I especially enjoy connecting with people who have a passion for life and want to help support other people on getting healthy.

That really is Why We Are Here.

We are here to love and support one another.

The best way to do that is to fully love and support ourselves.

That takes a little discipline, a little knowledge and a bit of outside support.

If you desire to live your life with more love, joy and sense of freedom you’re going to have to make some changes.

A Theory of Human Motivation suggests that in order for a human being to reach his/her full potential certain needs must be met. Once those needs are met the individual can focus on Self.

I tend to agree with the idea the Victor Frankl adds to this; man’s ultimate goal is not self-actualization, but self-transcendence.

What don’t agree with is that the needs are hierarchical.  I believe their interconnected and interdependent.

That being said I believe if one focuses their attention on being Mindful of the Physiological Needs (breath, water, nutrition, exercise) and then jumps to the end (self-transcendence) via meditation, appreciation, and observation; the middle parts of Maslow’s Theory just fall into place.

When I breath in a manner that allows my body to relax, feed and hydrate properly, exercise and rest I feel great.  I act with love and kindness.  I am happy and peaceful.

When I am happy and peaceful, I have no “need” to feel a sense of belonging, or crave anyone’s love.  I AM LOVE!

Add a 20 minute contemplation on the fact that the I AM presence that I AM is A 1:400,000,000,000 statistical anomaly, and many of my problems, fears and anxieties seem absolutely meaningless.

Don’t want to meditate or contemplate just yet?

Thank YOUTUBE and TEDTALKS 


You too are 1 and 400BILLION!

You are amazing.

You are Unique.

You serve a purpose.

Stop second guessing yourself and make the changes you desire to make.

TAKE ACTION NOW!

 

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Reclaiming My Self-Image then Leaving it Behind

Throughout the past year I have formed a virtual friendship with a guy I met on twitter. Spyros @heniadis discovered a tweet when I first put up this website.  I had no clue what I didn’t like about the layout, I just knew that it sucked.

Spyros DMd me and gave me his personal email address and offered to give me some pointers.  His approach to webdesign is much more Zen than mine.  Check out his website, but my own layout has evolved quite nicely throughout the year since twitter brought us together.

The other day I read a post by Spryos (the one I just directed you to in the link above).

He and I seem to often be on the same page with what our minds are processing.

I had just read a book about self-image the week before.  I talk a lot about self-image and personal paradigms in It’s All About Me.  Self-image has been my constant focus of research since mid November last year.

I share a similar story with Spyros.

I don’t know if I misconstrued what my Dad was saying when I was kid, but I know what I heard.

“You’re never going to amount to SHIT.”

That kind of stuck with me.

By the time I dropped out of Kent State, hitched a ride to California, and settled into the lifestyle of a bartender I secretly hated myself.  It seems to come as a shock to some people who knew me back in the day.

I have always walked around with a “Big Timmy Smile” on my face.

But, when I looked in the mirror I saw the human equivalent to a big pile of shit.  It’s the real reason I spent my life “partying”. I wasn’t celebrating life, I was getting high/drunk enough to enjoy it, and enjoy being around people.

I have always been a little different than most people.  I used to feel like an alien.  I was never really comfortable in my own skin.

I spent a lifetime struggling with it.

When I stopped using drugs and stopped drinking (1/13/2004), I started to realize the meaning of “uncomfortable”.

I traded my chemical addictions for poker and gambling; had to quit. Then started surfing every day, which helped me discover cheap meaningless sex.

I still held that image of a big pile of shit.

I found myself in Venice, California.  No one knew me.  No one had seen my past.

I started reading about self-development, started meditating and practicing yoga, I joined a canoe club, and I somehow found myself.

That’s when life got interesting!  I started writing.  I started living.

I got to revisit the idea of self-image this past year, through publishing It’s All About Me.  

I didn’t realize that it would trigger those old insecurities in me again.  I didn’t even notice it happening.  I just started to get more and more agitated throughout the year.

Irony! LOVE IT!

I publish A Soul Surfer’s Guide to Happiness and struggle maintaining my own.

It didn’t last long.

Thich Nhat Hanh reminded me to breathe.  I once again realized that “I AM HOME”.  I once again began to shed that limited self-image and step into the reality of today.

The month of December I read 8 books about self-image, watched documentaries about biology and it’s role in the way our minds work, and lately have discovered GoogleTechTalks on YouTube.  So, the search for knowledge continues.

But, something happened during the writing of this post.  I realized that much of my self-image work is pointless, and counter productive.

I am better served by forgetting it all.  I am better served by not defining myself by the things I do.

I am grateful that I can breathe, eat, digest, think, read, connect and LOVE.  I am grateful that I have the time to write out my thoughts, writing just feels good to down to my core.

I am grateful for a lot of things in my life; from the simple gesture of a smile to the complexities of the internet and many things in between.

But, at the end of each day, I am happiest when I am not identifying with any of it.  I am at peace when I am none of it.

I feel blessed when my Mind has focused its attention on the breath coming in and out of my body, or the food that I chew, or the water that I drink, the feel of this chair that supports me and the keys that my fingers peck to type these words.

I guess I’m going past the reclamation of my self-image. I am beginning to rediscover at this very moment the beauty and wonder of selflessness. I just hope I can maintain.

I don’t know that I will get naked in front of a camera anytime soon, but you never know.

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Empathy Rocks!

A few days ago I woke up, hit the button that starts filling up a pot of coffee and turned on my laptop.  I did what about 1/4 of the world does each day. I signed onto Facebook.

I had planned on filming my “faux commercial”, but within minutes my day was redirected. I clicked on the video below.

I felt that kids pain. I’ve been there, not for the same reasons as he suggests, but pain is pain. I’ve wanted to give up on this thing called life more than a few times. I had to reach out.

At the time I started the shooting my video response to this kid, I think he had about 120,000 hits. Now this video is well above 6M. Which tells me that a lot of us feel his pain. Many of us have been there.

Many people are rallying around the issue of bullying. I think we do need to address it. But, I think bullying, like many things in our experience is a result of something else.

We are bombarded by a propaganda fear on a daily basis. It’s no wonder that so many people feel the need to abuse people they perceive as different than themselves. It’s the way we’ve survived for so many years.

I’ve come to realize in my lifetime that most of the things I perceive are subjective at best.  The story I see and the way I go about my day is a result of an interpretation of sensory stimuli and historical context. When I hold on to a belief of “This is Right” and “This is Wrong”, I spend more time defending my position than growing from the experience of life.

That’s what I mean when I say that I discovered “My Real Guru is a Douche”. I’ve learned more about myself by really looking at all the things I don’t like in the world and searching my “self” for that same trait.  I have yet to find a quality virtuous or otherwise that I do not possess to some degree.

Which brings me to bullying.

Bullying happens. The bully and the victim are one and the same. The same feeling that gets triggered as a result of the Bullying is what leads the person to become the aggressor.  The same that you may have felt when you saw that young man’s video above.

Now, the young man above may have been just trying to get attention. It’s coming to surface that he wants to be famous. So, he just became “the little boy in the balloon” remember him; or how about that kid that faked falling in the well that time.

The validity of this boys claims aren’t important. It’s our reaction to the idea that he is in this much pain. Why did we all react the way we did.

Some of us reached out, spread the word and showed compassion. Some of us demanded the world stop picking on those kids/us. Yet others laughed, called names and continued the cycle of abuse. That’s where we have to focus. Therein lies the problem.

We have to each start to really look at our own motivations, and take in what we’re seeing and heal it.  I have thought for a long time that “isms” are the Achille’s Heel of Humanity.  Yes, I think we should go past this thing called Nationalism. I think we should see ourselves as one race, distant cousins as if Judeo-Christian  Mythology were correct and we all come from “Adam” and “Eve”.

All jokes about incest aside, we may actually be distant cousins after all.

 

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